“Relationship: noun; the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected.”

We all have a relationship with food, and we are all intrinsically connected to food. How many other relationships do you need to keep for your entire life…in order to stay alive? We need food and yet at the same time it’s a choice; it’s in our control, for better or for worse. If you’ve done or thought about doing Prescribe 20 – or any other nutrition program or diet – you are using food as a means to feel better, look better and/or attain better health. What and how we eat has the potential to create life altering changes.

Over the past handful of years, I’ve embarked on a journey to explore healing and gain a deeper sense of self, intuition and knowing. I’ve worked with all different types of healers and healing practices, from shamans to to natal charts to Transcendental meditations. It’s been both powerful and challenging, at points uncomfortable, but mostly it’s been amazing. Along the way, I’ve pocketed a few gold nuggets of wisdom that have been transformative. One of the most helpful bits of wisdom is owning our story – the good, the bad, the downright ugly and the amazing.

This brought me to reflecting about my food story. What is my food story and why does it matter? Your food story is personal, private, empowering and likely a little surprising. Food can be nourishment, medicine, fun, social, complex, confusing, shame-filled, and so much more. In fact, it can even be all of these things.

We think taking the time to write and identify your food story can help you better understand your unique relationship to food. It may shed light on things you haven’t been able to identify, and perhaps even provide some healing – whether or not you think you need it. The purpose of this is to guide you to own your relationship with food, to empower you to take charge and to pen your future chapters the way that you want them to look.

There is no one right way to do this, so just start by letting your thoughts and ideas flow. It might take you 15 minutes or you may revisit it over a few weeks – it’s different for everyone. We just wanted to start the conversation.

  • What are your earliest memories of food?
  • What was your relationship like with food as a young child (earliest memories)?
  • What was your relationship like with food as a teen?
  • What was your relationship like with food as a young adult?
  • What is your relationship like with food as an adult?
  • If there were any significant changes, can you pinpoint what could have been the catalyst?
  • Are there any healthy habits or nutrition habits that I don’t think actually improves my well being?
  • What is my ultimate goal?

When we own our story it gives us the power to be the author and to be fully present in the moment, rather than letting life happen and wondering how we ended up where we are. And when we make peace with our stories, life flows with more ease. Perhaps it’s because we are more consciously authoring or because reflection has taught us to see in the present with more clarity, but whatever the reason, the healing that accompanies ownership creates profound change.

I was really surprised with some things that came up in my food story. For example, my daughters’ food allergies and sensitivities  created a lot of fear for me. In my mind, foods became labeled “good and healthy” or “bad and unhealthy.” I remember feeling frustrated with my husband when he fed our daughters toast because it wasn’t “nutrient dense.” Clearly that fear and anxiety had avalanched. And even though I LIVED it and it’s my story, I couldn’t see it while I was in it. Even years later it took me sitting down and reflecting to see with clarity what was happening. Simply acknowledging it has been healing and has already spurred some healthy transformation. If I’m honest, I still see fear pop up at times, but I now recognize it immediately and make different choices.